Is it meaningless to apologize?

Here is a really serious post. But it’s from my heart, after undergoing a lot of experience in this, I felt like writing about this. Read on and you will know what I mean...



Here is a truth that I have realized very late, anyway here it is:


When I commit a mistake, I genuinely feel sorry for my mistake. I sincerely try to correct my mistake and also try to ensure I don’t commit such a mistake again. This applies especially in relationships with other people. I know I sound like am preaching stuff. But it’s not that simple. When we are sorry for some mistake we commit, we should try to correct it, if we hurts someone unintentionally, a heartfelt sorry and care not to repeat the mistake will keep the relationship going strong. But the other person's reaction also plays an important part...


I love the thought:


“Never try to explain yourself to anyone. The people who matter won’t mind and the people who mind don’t matter".


It is important to understand the depth of this statement. It does not mean we can do as we wish, hurt whomever we can and expect no one should question us. The real meaning of these words is: Know yourself and trust a few good people to know you well too. Be sincere in what u do and avoid falseness in your words, thoughts and actions. The need to explain what we do will never occur then, even when we commit some mistake then, the people who know us well will understand we did not commit the mistake intentionally. There are some people who get hurt easily. We feel really sorry for hurting them and express our regret. In spite of our best efforts, if they are still angry with us, it means a lot of things. It means the person does not trust us and they want us to punish us for long as they think we have done them wrong. If we are really sincere but we are not able to convince them, we r truly sorry for hurting them, it is better to let go and leave it to time to heal the relationship or let them go in their separate ways.


Because, first n foremost, when they are angry with us, it is an utter waste to persuade them for a long time and convince them that we are truly sorry. Secondly a person who feels hurt by us has a lot of emotions like anger and intent to punish us. Sometimes they may feel that they have to punish us and make us feel guilty for long. When a misunderstanding happens between them, it causes an invisible scar in their relationship. If the positive emotions they feel for each other like love, affection, care are stronger, then the misunderstanding will not last long, it will die an early death. But if they are already affected by negative emotions like anger, distrust, hatred, revengefulness, it’s better for them to part.


I don’t know whether I explained my thoughts well. I just feel it’s better to be happy and make others happy and when we commit some mistake, sincerity in correcting our mistake is the most important thing we should immediately do. In spite of our best efforts, if still our mistake leaves a mark, just leave it. Nothing further can be done! Adios :)